More fun facts about ancient Celtic marriage laws: There were no laws against interclass or interracial marriage, no laws against open homosexual relationships (although they weren’t considered ‘marriages’ since the definition of a marriage was ‘couple with child’), no requirement for women to take their husband’s names or give up their property, but comedians couldn’t get married
It’s Adam and Eve not Adam Sandler and Eve
Anonymous said: There's this boy that I've been talking to for a while and I'm beginning to believe he has a slight crush on me. But the problem is that I'm ace and idk how to come out to him. Help?
Oh gosh, okay. Let me see if I can bust out the advice-giver hat for a second.
Right, so first things first, asexuality has a whole lot more to it than “I don’t want to have sex”. There’s the definition from the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, or AVEN, that goes like this: “ ”someone who does not experience sexual attraction” and stated, “[a]nother small minority will think of themselves as asexual for a brief period of time while exploring and questioning their own sexuality” and that “[t]here is no litmus test to determine if someone is asexual. Asexuality is like any other identity – at its core, it’s just a word that people use to help figure themselves out”. (this whole thing was ganked from Wikipedia)
So there’s that. Also, I wouldn’t necessarily say identifying as ace is a problem. I think it’s going to make a potential relationship a little more complicated, but if you find a good person to be with, it just shouldn’t matter. And one quick note - don’t ever let anyone tell you what your identity has to be, like just don’t let people dictate who you are to make sure they’re happy and comfortable.
I don’t know very much about coming out as asexual to anyone, because I’ve never had to do it. But, I do know a lot about coming out to people and that weird mix of reactions you can get. If you like this dude and he likes you, give it a shot and just tell him what’s up in as straightforward a way as possible. The unfortunate part is that you’ll probably find out pretty quickly whether this guy is worth your time, effort, and education. Hopefully, he will be respectful of your identity and your preferences.
So the short version is, I’m not really sure what to tell you - meeting and coming out to new people always comes with a certain amount of risk. But I really, really hope it turns out okay.